The Everday Woman - Part 3

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Everyday Woman – Part 3

[00:00:00] Rev. Michele Owes: Well, we are back. Thank you so much for joining our podcast. This is the Teachable Woman podcast. I am Reverend Michelle Owes and

[00:00:14] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: I am Reverend Deanna P. Cherry

[00:00:19] Rev. Michele Owes: Excellent. And we are Teachers of Good Things

[00:00:22] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Teacher of good things.

[00:00:25] Rev. Michele Owes: We want you to know that it's our honor and it's our joy to be able to share with you. We've been sharing from a series titled The Everyday Woman. We just want to share basic things from our hearts. As you know, our podcast is unscripted. We learned that we are handcrafted by a Holy God. He did not make any mistakes when he was handcrafting us. I love that idea. We also learned that we were fearfully and wonderfully made and that we are unique. There's nobody on the earth like us, and God spent concentrated time with us.

[00:01:06] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Quiet time.

[00:01:07] Rev. Michele Owes: as He crafted us. Yes, quiet time. And then He put the man to sleep so he wouldn't be interrupting.

[00:01:14] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: He put him in a deep sleep.

[00:01:16] Rev. Michele Owes: Yes, a deep sleep. So, God could have a wonderful time with us.

[00:01:20] Rev. Michele Owes: We’re hoping that you could receive the love that God has for you knowing that He spent private time crafting you. And so now we want to talk a little bit about how we must be organized so that the issues of life do not overwhelm us.

[00:01:46] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Yes. We know that in our church, we're taught seven spiritual principles. And the principle of organization is the first principle that we were taught. Organization is God's plan to simplify our lives. It does not mean that our lives are going to be easy, but they will be simplified.

[00:02:09] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: And the more organized you become, the more organized you will desire to be because you will realize how much organization is saving you time and effort. You will get to the point where you'll want everything in your life to be organized.

[00:02:33] Rev. Michele Owes: That is true. My father was in the military.

[00:02:36] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Oh, yes. Yes.

[00:02:38] Rev. Michele Owes: We were taught that everything has a place. If we were playing with our toys on the floor, we had to be with the toys, but when we moved the toys had to move with us and they had to be put in the place that they were designated to be. You know the principle of organization just by understanding when you put your keys somewhere they're not normally placed.

[00:03:00] Rev. Michele Owes: Think of how long it takes you and how frustrating it can be while you stand around saying, now, where did I put those keys? They're not in my purse. They're not on the key hook. They're not in the box where they normally are. Putting things in the proper place saves us time.

[00:03:21] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Simplified

[00:03:22] Rev. Michele Owes: Yes, it does. It saves us emotion and that frustration of running around in the last few minutes, trying to find our keys. You know, I have a habit of leaving shoes in the car because when I go to church or go to work, then I take those shoes off when I get in the car and put driving shoes on. Sometimes I bring my things in the house and leave the shoes in the car.

[00:03:46] Rev. Michele Owes: Then I'm ready to wear those shoes again, I am wondering where are those shoes? Where was the last place I had them? You don’t think you left them in the car.

[00:03:55] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Exactly.

[00:03:56] Rev. Michele Owes: So yes. Then I settled on another pair, and I got outside, and I look. There are three pairs of shoes in the back of the car, but I could have saved myself some time. Right.

[00:04:08] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Right. But you're picking on me today because I misplace those keys all the time. Then I say tonight, when I come in, they're going to go on the key holder. The next morning, I get up and I am on my way to exercise class. Who moved my keys? Nobody's here but me.

[00:04:34] Rev. Michele Owes: It was the other you, not you, but the other you. I understand keys are like that. The word of God helps us to organize. It helps us to choose many things in life. I remember learning at the women's retreat about how to organize my life when I had small children. One event with a small child can just throw the whole day off. They are dressed. They are having breakfast. Everybody's sitting ready.

You're walking out the door. The cereal bowl is now atop. You have to change some clothes, right? There's the schedule. But having ironed the clothes over the weekend, having all the uniforms or whatever the outfits are sitting and ready because we were organized. We prepared for those eventualities. You didn't expect it. Now we're using 5 to 7 more minutes, other than, oh, my goodness, there's no clean clothes. Now, what are we going to do? Now we must wear something different that we're not even supposed to wear to school. All those kinds of things, small things, will be irradicated if we organize ourselves. It will save us a lot of time.

[00:05:57] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Oh, yes. And we, it will help to bring peace into our homes. It'll help to cut down on arguments. It'll help us not to be so frustrated with our children or our spouses. Don't be overwhelmed and try to organize the entire house in one day. Choose a drawer.

[00:06:19] Rev. Michele Owes: Yes. Amen.

[00:06:22] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Maybe a wardrobe drawer, choose one thing. Then work with that one thing, and purge.

[00:06:29] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Please purge. We don't have to keep things that we know we're never going to get back to, that size 2. We were not in that size 2 since we were 2. Yeah. If we take on too many projects to organize, we will be bent out of shape frustrated, and feel like it's impossible. I encourage you to just take one project at a time and organize it. And you're going to be so proud of yourself.

[00:07:07] Rev. Michele Owes: Amen. I also want to talk about organizing our lives as it relates to relationships and understanding those relationships that we have that bring us peace and joy versus those that are constant sources of strife and I'm going to say every evil work. How can we organize our lives to better address those types of situations?

[00:07:43] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Yes. I think you should expound on that a little more while I think more. This is unscripted. We are real women. We are real everyday women. And I need to think a little bit about what my darling sister is sharing. But definitely, we need to organize every aspect. You can have people in your lives who are just disruptive, and you spend too much time trying to please them or trying to do things like they suggest and it's not going to work.

[00:08:23] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: We must be at peace within ourselves. Sister Michele, take it away from that.

[00:08:32] Rev. Michele Owes: There are times that we have relationships and sometimes it can be family members.

[00:08:37] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Yes.

[00:08:41] Rev. Michele Owes: That is an emotional drain on our lives. There's a constant drawing of a negative atmosphere or a constant drawing of an unsettling on the inside. Sometimes they may elicit a response from us that is so far from who we want to be or who we are striving to be. Those kinds of relationships are in a constant withdrawal state, and they're not making any deposits in our lives. When we find ourselves in those kinds of relationships, we need to know how to organize our lives so that those individuals do not have much access to or as much input into who we are and what we do. We want to find ways to maintain a level of peace, a level of stability in your life. We want God's word to get in and comfort us. I'm not suggesting that we fly off the handle, or that we tell people I'm through with you. [00:10:00] There are godly ways that we can make these adjustments to restore the peace and joy that may be robbed by others.

[00:10:15] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: I think the important thing is to identify what's important and who's important. There are so many people in our lives who are just not important. And our husbands, our mates are important, our children are important. And I think developing meaningful and productive relationships with them. That should be our priority. Of course, loving God and having a relationship with him is the number one priority. But sometimes we're so encumbered with stuff and things that we don't even have time to have a meaningful relationship with an almighty God who created in his image and his likeness.

[00:10:58] Rev. Michele Owes: Amen. Amen. When we say understanding who's important, we're not giving the impression that creation is not important. We are saying that there are people who can add to the productivity of your life.

[00:11:13] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Right?

[00:11:14] Rev. Michele Owes: Some people can help you be what God created you to be, or help you get where God desires you to be. There are those people who are constantly subtracting from that flow.

[00:11:31] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Yes.

[00:11:31] Rev. Michele Owes: There's that constant level of negativity, you must know when to cut your losses.

[00:11:37] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Yes.

[00:11:38] Rev. Michele Owes: You have to know when you can, as they say, exit stage left. It doesn't necessarily mean that people are bad. Sometimes they're just bad for you. It doesn't mean that people are not good. It just means that maybe they're not good with you. Sometimes personalities can rub each other the wrong way. Desires can be contrary, but organizing your life is not just about organizing the stuff and things that you own. It's not all external. It's taking an inventory of who in my life can add to the condition of my life and add to the productivity of my life. Who can I learn from? Who can I grow by watching, or being in their company? Who is a constant subtraction?

[00:12:37] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Yeah, that's true.

[00:12:40] Rev. Michele Owes: Who is a minus or brings negativity, or just an abrasive person?

[00:12:48] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Yeah. An irritant.

[00:12:48] Rev. Michele Owes: But irritant is a good word. We not only have to organize administratively and financially, but we also have to organize our relationships.

[00:13:01] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: You know, I never thought about that before. I think that's why I took that little pause because I never really thought about organizing relationships. Never. You know, and that's just being honest. I've never thought about that. But maybe it's because I don't have a lot of relationships in my life. Especially now, but it's important.

[00:13:25] Rev. Michele Owes: That's a whole other discussion about how relationships change when life circumstances change.

[00:13:33] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: For sure. For sure. I was just going to say it's important that we not allow negative people to draw positive energy from us. My husband used to call them seeking suckers. Don't allow a seeking sucker to suck the life out of you and leave you befuddled, and all upset and in turmoil.

[00:14:01] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Take control of your life. Take control of relationships. Nobody is so important in my life that I must allow them to negatively impact my life.

[00:14:14] Rev. Michele Owes: Amen. I remember when we learned about seeking suckers, and those are growths that appear on trees. They're not productive. They don't produce leaves or anything. They just look like a big malformation. Then they suck the life out of the tree.

[00:14:33] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Right.

[00:14:33] Rev. Michele Owes: They take all the nutrients. They take everything as though they're going to produce, but they never produce.

[00:14:38] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Never produce fruit.

[00:14:40] Rev. Michele Owes: Yeah, right. And he would say, don't allow the seeking suckers to drain your life. And so that's exactly what that is. I wanted to make sure you had a natural example of that. All right, 30 seconds to pour.

[00:14:54] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Okay, I wasn't expecting it to be up so soon. But what I'll do is give you a couple of things that I would like you to think about. We must realize that we must believe that righteous works are best for us. Unrighteous works will never be what's best for us. So always make loving God and living for God your number one priority.

[00:15:24] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: God will show you how to organize your life, how to organize your friends, how to organize situations, circumstances, and relationships.

[00:15:34] Rev. Michele Owes: Very, very good. Excellent. That is wonderful. My 30 seconds are going to be organization is God's plan to simplify your life. When life gets complicated, oftentimes it's because we've not organized, or have not determined what is important and what is not important, even in that junk drawer. What is important and what's not important in that closet? What's important? What's not important? What have we not touched in 3 to 5 years? For our friendships and relationships, who adds to the quality of my life? The interesting thing is sometimes it's the people you least expect.

[00:16:18] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Yes.

[00:16:19] Rev. Michele Owes: They may not be in your fab five.

[00:16:21] Rev. Michele Owes: The ones called to make a deposit in your life, may not be in your fab five. I can use Mrs. Cherry as an example. Our friendship developed over the years, but we were not in contact until recently, there was always a deposit being made in my life. Sometimes it's not necessarily the people that you think. I would have thought that maybe I would do a podcast with somebody from college, or a friend that I've had for a long time. But God has a will.

[00:17:01] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Yes.

[00:17:01] Rev. Michele Owes: God's will is best. We're suffering no lack as we work through this podcast. We are having a good time, and we are doing the will of God. We organized our lives to have time to do this podcast.

[00:17:19] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Yes.

[00:17:20] Rev. Michele Owes: And so, as we organize our lives, let's make sure we don't organize God out of it.

[00:17:25] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: Yes.

[00:17:28] Rev. Michele Owes: Let's make the time. Clean out the clutter of the time wasters, and the people wasters, and make God a priority. All right. I know that was more than 30 seconds, but I'm the host. I love you. That's our time for this day.

[00:17:44] Rev. Diana P. Cherry: That's what hosts can do.

[00:17:48] Rev. Michele Owes: We thank you for joining us for this Everyday Woman podcast and we'll be back soon. Love you.

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